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Tender Love

A Trauma-Informed, Resilience-Oriented Learning Community for Perinatal Professionals

Tender Love is a groundbreaking training and community for doulas, childbirth and lactation educators, and newborn care specialists

Discover the program created by leading trauma and perinatal expert Nkem Ndefo– as seen facilitating with Gabor Mate and Peter Levine.

18 Contact Hours. 2 Open Office Hours. Access to Exclusive Online Learning Community.

Registration for Tender Love Cohort 3 is now closed. To be notified when Cohort 4 is announced, add your email to our list!

The program was so jam-packed with thorough and thoughtful information. I was constantly blown away by all the information I did not know, yet empowered every time a session was done. I cannot think of a way to improve the course and really thank you for honestly changing my life!

This class and the information it offers is so incredibly important. I’m so grateful for all of the ways that this will improve the way I show up for my clients as a birth worker.

I am BURSTING with excitement and ideas. Thank you!!!

Every birthing person deserves care that truly meets their needs.

Pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period are profound transitions—shaped not just by personal experiences but also by cultural, historical, and systemic forces. For many families, these stressors compound an already vulnerable time, making it harder to access the calm, safety, and support they need.

Tender Love equips perinatal professionals with the tools to provide the kind of care that helps families navigate these challenges with resilience and dignity.

Participants will earn continuing education credits and take away new perspectives, concrete strategies, and real-time skills that will enable them to provide effective trauma-responsive client care.

Originally developed for Los Angeles County’s Department of Public Health’s African American Infant and Maternal Mortality (AAIMM) Doula Project, this groundbreaking training is now available to the public.

Why This Work Matters Now

In an increasingly uncertain world, birthing people are carrying more stress than ever. The political and social climate, systemic inequities, and the weight of generational trauma all add layers of fear and anxiety to the already complex journey of bringing a child into the world. They need care that acknowledges this reality—care that is attuned, skillful, and truly supportive.

With Tender Love, you will learn how to:

  • Recognize the impact of stress and trauma on birthing people—understanding the ways historical, systemic, and personal trauma shape the perinatal experience.
  • Foster resilience in your clients—so they can move through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum with more capacity, connection, and confidence.
  • Identify and respond to stress responses in real time—helping clients feel safer, more at ease, and fully supported.
  • Integrate a trauma-informed, resilience-oriented approach into perinatal policies, procedures, and care practices.
  • Strengthen collaboration among birth professionals—building networks of care that support both individuals and communities.
This is not just another training—it’s a movement toward care that truly honors and supports the realities of birthing people’s lives.

This class is so wonderful. I’ve been a birthworker for 6 years now and this is such an amazing tool to bring with me when supporting clients, and when mentoring other doulas in my collective.

Being able to be present in a safe and protected space while being a source of safety and protection for others moved my soul.

The empathy discussion really impacted me. I’ve had empathy all wrong and it makes sense why I’m so burned out/tend to be emotionless and non-reactive when working with clients.

Course Schedule

The Tender Love Training Program consists of 18 contact hours of group training, 2 open office hours, and access to our exclusive community and learning platform with active affinity spaces and discussion boards. All training sessions and office hours will happen live, with replay/recordings available.

Phase 1 – 9 contact hours
  • March 6, 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM Pacific 
  • March 20, 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM Pacific
  • April 3, 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM Pacific
Phase 2 – 9 contact hours
  • April 17, 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM Pacific
  • May 1, 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM Pacific
  • May 15, 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM Pacific
Office Hours with Nkem & Mikaela
  • April 10, 9:00 AM – 10:30 AM Pacific
  • May 8, 9:00 AM – 10:30 AM Pacific

Have questions about the program or want more info? Message us here and we will get back to you ASAP!

Pricing

Our sliding-scale pricing helps you contribute in a way that is fair while considering current and historical inequity and your own identities. Here are some things to think about when choosing which ticket to purchase:

  • Your socioeconomic position or current income
  • How you may have benefitted from family wealth
  • Your education level
  • Your power in your workplace or industry
  • Whether you are supporting your family financially or as a full-time caregiver
  • Whether you are located in the Global North or South
  • Your race
  • Your immigration status
  • Your sexuality/gender identities
  • Your physical ability

ACTUAL COST – $597

This is for those who are able to pay the full rate or who are sponsored by an employer, community organization, or personal network.

PARTIALLY SUPPORTED – $497

This is for those who are not sponsored by an employer, community organization, or personal network and/or cannot afford the Actual Cost.

SUPPORTED – $150

This is for those who are not sponsored by an employer, community organization, or personal network and/or cannot afford the Actual or Partially Supported Cost.
Questions or need help? Contact us at info@lumostransforms or  323-254-7775.

Meet the Tender Love Facilitation Team

With combined decades of experience, our Facilitation Team will guide you every step of the way through your Tender Love journey.

Mikaela Johnson VaalMikaela Lynn (she/they) is a Certified Facilitator of The Resilience Toolkit, Licensed Massage Therapist, Certified Birth and Postpartum Doula, Lactation Educator, Yoga Instructor, and Reiki Master living and working in Los Angeles. She is trained in a wide range of modalities to support health and healing for people from all walks of life, with a special focus on reproductive health, pregnancy, and postpartum care. Mikaela has over twenty years of experience working with people in challenging situations and is fiercely passionate about improving healthcare equity for birthing and postpartum people – specifically Black, trans, and nonbinary folks. 

As a Perinatal Care Specialist, Mikaela holds space for people as they navigate reproductive health and perinatal care by providing emotional support, physical comfort, practical assistance, and non-medical care. Mikaela pulls intuitively from her vast repository of knowledge and skills when working with clients – tailoring her approach to meet the individual needs of each client. She believes that awareness is power, and supports her clients to confidently navigate their own wellness journey so they can advocate for themselves, their bodies, and their families. 

Nkem NdefoNkem Ndefo, MSN, CNM, RN, (she/they)  is the founder of Lumos Transforms and creator of The Resilience Toolkit. Licensed as a Registered Nurse since 1995 and a Nurse Midwife since 2000, Nkem holds a Master’s degree in Nursing from Frontier Nursing University. She has extensive post-graduate training in complementary health modalities and emotional therapies. As a clinician, Nkem has worked in settings ranging from large volume hospitals to mobile community clinics. She founded and operated a full scope midwifery and homebirth practice from 2000-2007 and she maintained a small holistic private practice in Los Angeles from 2007-2020. Additionally, she worked for the California Maternal Quality Care Collaborative researching maternal death outcomes.

Nkem is an expert in the trauma-informed and resilience-oriented (TIRO) approach, embodied anti-oppression, and healing justice. She served on the Los Angeles County Trauma-and Resilience-Informed Systems Change Initiative Workgroup, developed a pilot violence-prevention academy for peer support workers as part of Los Angeles County Department of Public Health’s Trauma Prevention Initiative, served as the lead for Los Angeles County Department of Health Services’ equity, diversity, inclusion, and antiracism initiative, and co-directs Embody Lab’s Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Certification and Embodied Activism Programs.

A skilled practitioner, dynamic speaker, and valued strategist. Nkem is known for her unique ability to connect with people of all types by holding powerful healing spaces, weaving complex concepts into accessible narratives, and creating synergistic and collaborative learning communities that nourish people’s innate capacity for healing, wellness, and connection.

Tender Love Course Overview

The Tender Love Training Program consists of 18 contact hours of group training, 2 open office hours, and access to our exclusive community and learning platform with active affinity spaces and discussion boards.  All training sessions and office hours will happen live, with replay/recordings available.
Registration for Tender Love Cohort 3 is now closed. To be notified when Cohort 4 is announced, add your email to our list!

PHASE 1 – 9 Contact Hours

SESSION 1 
The evolution of the embodied Trauma Informed Resilience Oriented (eTIRO) approach and its role in the perinatal context
Building embodied resilience with the Resilience Toolkit
SESSION 2 
The stress-trauma continuum and its impacts on the somatic, emotional, mental, behavioral, and relational levels in the perinatal context
SESSION 3 
Cultural and historical sources of trauma and resilience and their influence on individuals, families, institutions, and systems

PHASE 2 – 9 Contact Hours

SESSION 4 
Resilience and its role in trauma healing and recovery
Attunement to stress-relaxation responses for improved co-regulation and empathy
SESSION 5 
Preventing and mitigating vicarious trauma and burnout to improve perinatal professional quality of life and client care
Integrating embodied resilience and eTIRO principles when working with clients’ trauma stories
SESSION 6 
Strategies for eTIRO principle implementation in perinatal policies, procedures, and practice
Cross-role collaboration and coalition building in the perinatal healthcare team

Plus Office Hours with Nkem & Mikaela

About Continuing Education Credits

Provider Nkemdilim Ndefo is approved by the California Board of Registered Nursing, Provider Number 15871, for 18 contact hours. (Nursing Board continuing education hours are accepted by CAPPA, DONA, and Lamaze International).
18 R-CERPs recognized by IBLCE. IBLCE CERPs Recognition Number: STP Number C2023080. (IBLCE continuing education hours are accepted by ICEA).
The program is approved by the Oregon Health Authority (OHA) for eighteen (18) Continuing Education Contact Hours of Traditional Health Worker Continuing Education Credit for Doulas.

Questions? Contact us at info@lumostransforms.com or +1-323-254-7775.

PAY IT FORWARD!

You can help us offer more Supported spots for Tender Love with a tax-deductible contribution!
Click the donate button to help birthworkers gain essential, trauma-informed knowledge and skills. No amount is too small!
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Tender Love Integration Program

Get support applying your new trauma-informed care knowledge and skills with the Tender Love Integration Program.
Come together for new perspectives and creative problem-solving with expert mentorship and peer support. 
With The Tender Love Integration Program, you’ll deepen your knowledge and practice your skills in a supportive environment.  
The Integration Program is a recommended but optional supplement to Tender Love.
Learn more about Tender Love Integration

Questions?

Contact us at info@lumostransforms.com or +1-323-254-7775