It seems like every day we are delivered more awful news. We’re faced with natural disasters like hurricanes, floods, and fires, mass shootings, terrorist attacks, the revealing of racism and bigotry, sexual harassment and violence, instability and uncertainty in our institutions and leadership, political divisiveness, and just general malaise amongst people in real life and especially online.
Honestly, it doesn’t seem like all these huge stressors are bringing out the best in people. And who can blame them? Many of us weren’t given appropriate tools or strategies for coping with stress. So when the stressors of daily life meet these bigger events and concerns, is it any wonder people end up lashing out, withdrawing, or turning to convenient methods of checking out? Though some methods people choose to cope with stress are more inherently risky than others, we’re not saying any of them are wrong. Most people are doing the best they can with the cards they are holding, and we know that the body is always seeking ways to come back to relaxation. It’s normal to just grab whatever is easily accessible and seems to work when you’re in distress.
At Lumos Transforms, we are invested in providing people with simple tools that address stress head-on. This means that when you are well-resourced with knowledge about your own nervous system and tools for regulation, you can apply early interventions when triggered. The idea is that you will be able to notice when the latest news is sending you into a stressed state and do something to down-regulate. Making this a regular practice not only decreases feelings of anxiety and powerlessness that come when exposed to traumatic situations but is also a preventative measure. When you reduce stress and regulate your system throughout the day, maybe you won’t find yourself at the bottom of a gallon of ice cream, with a stomach ache and no clue how you got there. And the science is overwhelmingly in that chronic, persistent stress has a real and debilitating effect on our mental, emotional, and physical health.
It’s a big ask. You’re already overwhelmed, and now you’re supposed to manage your nervous system as well? Who has the time or energy for that? No one, really. One feature of stress is that it makes you feel like you don’t have enough time. So how on earth does a stressed and traumatized person in a stressed and traumatized society hope to break out of the cycle of stress and trauma?
The answer is not all at once. You can rescue yourself from the cycle slowly, and gently, without having to make drastic changes. We teach The Resilience Toolkit over 3 sessions because we found that 3 sessions were the absolute minimum to give people a good foundational understanding of the nervous system and grasp of the tools. So yes, it takes 3 sessions over 3 weeks to get started, but after that, it’s little changes over time that have the potential to make the biggest impact when it comes to reducing stress and building resilience.
This is a true paradigm shift. We offer simple ways out of the stress cycle, little mindfulness and movement hacks, that send the body back into relaxation. Many of them can be done in minutes or even seconds. And that’s it. Once you have the tools, you use them on your terms. You decide what works for your body and your life. You take the tools you like, adapt them accordingly, and apply them when it’s comfortable for you. You don’t have to upend everything or embark on a massive lifestyle change to start feeling more resilient in the face of challenging times.
You have permission to be where you are in your nervous system. We hold you where you are without judgment and affirm that is right to feel disturbed. But we’re also here to say that you don’t have to stay disturbed.